It's All About Me
Friday, September 28, 2007
Looking Back...
Why is looking back more helpful after the fact??? What is the sense in learning the lesson, when you may not be able to use it ever again? If someone fucked up..and u didnt see the signs until after the fact...and upon looking back you were able to see those signs...really, what good is it?
Are we as people designed to forgive, forget and move on? Nah...we overanalyze, reflect, re-hash, and hold grudges over shit...and make the next person pay for it.
What's the sense in that?
That's neither fair to the next Joe, Jack, or Jill, or to me, myself, and I.
So, yeah, reflection is a good tool to use when seeing where you DONT want to go, when compared to where you have been, and what didnt work.... but in a relationship sense...reflection only serves to prolong the bullshit, increase the anger, and make one's self feel REAAAALLY stupid for not seeing the signs....
If signs along the way were as evident as the ones you see on a highway that warn your ass that boulders and shit will likely be falling on your roadway, you will be extra cautious driving along that shit..no? But if a smooth ass playa throws a lil game down, and seems sincere, gets the boooty and gets ghost ....and ends up in ya best friends bed...you WISH dude woulda come with "asshole" tattooed on his forehead...
Totally relevant right here... Remember my post a while back where I mentioned my sister just had baby # 2 with her punkass boyfriend? Get this.
She met him, and
Sign #1, his MOMMA had to pick her up cuz his licence was suspended.
Sign #2, he went to jail about a month after they got together for shady ass shyt. And she waited for him.
Sign #3, Some girl named him daddy of her yet-to-be-born baby..
Sign #4, (shall I continue?) She was convinced by him that he had CHRONIC chlamydia, and would never be rid of it. Uh EW..and NOT true.
Sign #5, She found out about the pregnancy, and made sure she was pregnant no less than a month later.
Sign #6, He Beat her PREGNANT ass, with nunchuks, because he was high on crack
Sign #7, He called her crying 20X a day because she left him and he was 'so sorry'...
Sign #8, He went apeshit while she was in labor, and security had to be called.
I seriously have a hundred of these...
Anyway. He succeeded in knocking her up again. She gave him a son. Lucky bastard.
Anyhow. My point is. I was looking at photos the other day when I went to their house to meet my new nephew. One jumped out at me. It was her babydaddy holding the baby. Dude had his shirt off, and on his chest, tattooed in script handwriting was the word, "Asshole"...
I couldn't make this shit up if I tried.
Signs are a mutha....but hey....watch out for them boulders on the road...the signs are there for a reason.
